Harnessing Neurodivergence in Entrepreneurship with Jess Gelvin
In this special episode of the Wealth Witches podcast, recorded live during our Wealth Witches Membership, host Katelyn Magnuson sits down with Jess Gelvin, a trailblazing entrepreneur who has turned her neurodivergence into her superpower. Diagnosed with ADHD in 2015 and autism in 2023, Jess shares her candid story of navigating a world built for neurotypical people and how these experiences have profoundly influenced her entrepreneurial journey. The conversation unpacks the realities of masking and burnout, common struggles for neurodivergent individuals trying to fit into conventional business models, and highlights the liberating moment when Jess decided to embrace her true self.
Together, Katelyn and Jess discuss how to harness neurodivergent strengths in business, from creating personalized systems that align with one’s natural flow to leveraging tools like astrology and human design. Jess emphasizes the importance of getting comfortable with being “weird” and how stepping into your authenticity can attract the right clients, opportunities, and fulfillment. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to break free from traditional business norms and build a life and business that honors their unique identity.
Key Takeaways
- Embrace your neurodivergence as a strength, using it to create a business that aligns with who you truly are.
- Unmasking and living authentically can lead to deeper fulfillment and attract the right opportunities.
- Develop personalized systems and structures that support your unique needs to avoid burnout.
- Setting clear boundaries with clients and in your business is crucial for maintaining well-being.
- Get comfortable with being “weird” and showing up as your true self—this will help you connect with like-minded clients.
Guest Bio:
Jess Gelvin is the founder of Space and Soul, a business she launched in 2020 that initially focused on home organizing. Diagnosed with ADHD in 2015 and autism in 2023, Jess has since shifted her focus to working with neurodivergent clients. Through her programs like The Dub Club, individual coaching, and body doubling, Jess helps others embrace their unique strengths and navigate a world designed for neurotypical individuals. She is passionate about using tools like astrology and human design to guide her clients in finding alignment and fulfillment in both life and business. Jess lives in Loudon, New Hampshire, with her husband, son, three dogs, and a flock of chickens.
Connect with Jess:
Instagram: @thequadrightway
Website: spaceandsoulnh.com
Her Membership: NeuroDivergent Dub Club
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Transcript
Hello, and welcome magical creatures to the Wealth Witches podcast.
Speaker:This is a place where we brew up financial empowerment and mix in a little
Speaker:sprinkle of magic. I'm Katelyn Magnuson, your guide on this
Speaker:enchanted journey to financial enlightenment. Here, we honor all
Speaker:identities and invoke our inner witches to create holistic wealth and prosperity.
Speaker:So grab your crystals, open your minds, and let's get ready to conjure some
Speaker:financial clarity.
Speaker:Our special guest today is Jess Galvin,
Speaker:and I'm gonna give you all a little bit about her, and then we'll just
Speaker:dive in. So Jess Galvin began Space and Soul as
Speaker:a home organizing business in 2020, diagnosed ADHD in
Speaker:2015 herself, Jess quickly found herself drawn towards working with neurodivergent
Speaker:clients. As she learned more about her diagnosis in adulthood, Jess realized that the
Speaker:world is set up with systems designed to work for the majority of neurotypical folks.
Speaker:After her autism diagnosis in 2023, Jess began programs such as
Speaker:the dub club, individual coaching, and body doubling to focus
Speaker:even further on developing individual programs. Jess loves when she can
Speaker:use astrology or human design to help her clients understand the flow of their strengths
Speaker:rather than fighting to fit in a one size fits all society. She lives in
Speaker:I'm gonna butcher this. Loudon? Loudon.
Speaker:Loudon, New Hampshire with her son, husband, 3 loving dogs,
Speaker:and a flock of chickens. So, Jess, super excited to have you
Speaker:today and for the conversation we get to have. Me too. I'm so pumped
Speaker:to be here. Thank you, and I really appreciate it. Of course, as a
Speaker:fellow chicken lover, 3 3 dogs with a
Speaker:bunch of chickens. I feel like we end up in the plus similar climates. We
Speaker:end up having a lot of synchronicities in our lives. I
Speaker:agree. I know today you were gonna chat about neurodivergence in
Speaker:business, and I would love to kind of
Speaker:just have a free form, like, pop in with questions. But, like, when you're talking
Speaker:about, like, being neurodivergent and working in business and, like, navigating all of that,
Speaker:like, how what have you done? What has your evolution been? Like, what
Speaker:has it looked like? Yeah. Totally. So I would say the
Speaker:evolution of it was, I think a lot of people in the neurodivergent
Speaker:community are familiar with the word masking, which is, like,
Speaker:kind of a thing we put on so that we can appear typical to
Speaker:others, in our society, infrastructure, and how things are
Speaker:done. So the beginning of my journey looked like a lot of fucking laughing.
Speaker:Like, I was like, oh, okay. This is how they're all doing in
Speaker:business. This is how I have to do it. Okay. They're taking these courses. They're
Speaker:doing it this way. They're setting up their structures. Okay. Like, this is how you
Speaker:run a business. So let me do it that way. And while
Speaker:yeah. Maybe parts of it were successful, it led to an
Speaker:incredible burnout in me and just really not I
Speaker:didn't feel very aligned in what I was doing. I never felt
Speaker:connected to the way people sell online or sell
Speaker:themselves. It never felt natural or normal to me, but I was like, oh,
Speaker:this is how you're supposed to do it. This is how people and business do
Speaker:it. So so for me, it was, like, a ton of trial
Speaker:and error, honestly. And it's book, you know,
Speaker:getting my my autism diagnosis really, really catapulted me
Speaker:into, like, oh, fuck all these systems. Fuck all
Speaker:of you. I'm doing it this way because this is what has always felt natural
Speaker:and normal to me, but I've gone against myself because
Speaker:growing up as a neurodivergent girl and not even knowing it, like, I
Speaker:was bullied a ton. I was made fun of. People were mean to me. People
Speaker:would call me weird and all this stuff. So my whole life, I was just
Speaker:trying to fit in and be like the typical people. And
Speaker:that's exactly how I started my business too. It was like, oh, okay. This
Speaker:is how I have to do it. Just like in school, I did. Well, this
Speaker:is how all the other girls are doing it. Okay. That's how I should be.
Speaker:It was, like, totally being back in, like, you know, the 5th grade playground
Speaker:again. Like, okay. What are they doing? Alright. That's how I'll do it so that
Speaker:I can appear normal. So whatever it needs to be, you
Speaker:know? So I think, like, that's
Speaker:important to talk about because I also witness a lot of
Speaker:people in their businesses. I would I call it,
Speaker:like, you know, operating from their not self. You know, we we all do
Speaker:it. We operate in a way that we think we're supposed to be or think
Speaker:we should be. And then
Speaker:what what's what's hard is that the world praises
Speaker:us for our not selves. They praise us for overworking,
Speaker:overdoing, go go go, never stopping, like, being
Speaker:the the badass CEO, like, put yourself out there. No like,
Speaker:we're praised for that. Right? So it makes us wanna, oh, I
Speaker:should keep doing that. The problem with that is that doesn't end. Like, that's just
Speaker:a never ending uphill battle. And so
Speaker:what happens, I think, too with the even neurotypical people, but
Speaker:neurodiversity people is we burn out, man. Looking hardcore.
Speaker:We're trying so hard to fit in a society that isn't built for us. The
Speaker:systems and structures are don't don't intake us at
Speaker:all. And then we're trying to, like, run our our regular lives,
Speaker:our homes, our families, all this other stuff while trying to appear
Speaker:normal in business. And it really did get
Speaker:to a point where I was like, I can't keep living like this. I'm gonna
Speaker:die. Like, I'm gonna die if I keep living like this. And I
Speaker:think having, you know, that the diagnosis
Speaker:really did give me that that, like, oh, right. This is who
Speaker:I am. Like, oh, now I can understand myself in a more
Speaker:aligned way and make choices and decisions, not only in my regular
Speaker:life, but in my business that accommodate me. And I'm
Speaker:not trying to push through mud all the time just to try and
Speaker:get the quote or get this or whatever it is in
Speaker:business.So yeah.
Speaker:I'm really curious for you because I know we're gonna be, like, talking about harnessing
Speaker:neurodivergence for entrepreneurs, but, like, what were
Speaker:some of the changes that you started making or whether it was mindset shifts or,
Speaker:like, actual changes in, like, how you operated your business or how you did your
Speaker:sales or any like, what did that look like for you when you were like,
Speaker:fuck. Why am I doing everything in a way that doesn't work for me?
Speaker:Yeah. So, and this is this is probably where I I would tie in
Speaker:my my studies within, astrology and human
Speaker:design was it really helped me. Like, you know, I
Speaker:got the diagnosis, then I'm like, well, how do I support myself now?
Speaker:Right? And so really learning about my astrology and my human
Speaker:design has been so significant in how
Speaker:I operate in my daily life within my family and in my
Speaker:business. Like, those pulls that I've always had,
Speaker:I now lean into them as opposed to being like, oh, that's rap. That's wrong.
Speaker:That's weird. Don't do that. Now I'm like, oh, how weird can we
Speaker:get? Like, let's get weirder. Like, what is lighting me up? What feels
Speaker:good? Where's my excitement taking me as opposed to, like,
Speaker:what structure and system is right for this? Like, how do you sell this?
Speaker:You have to follow this 10 step system. Like, that's, like, a 100%
Speaker:not how I operate and was really affirmed in that
Speaker:in my human design chart and in my astrology chart. And so
Speaker:what I've really used those as tools within my regular
Speaker:life and my business to make me just feel,
Speaker:I feel so much happier. Things are more fun. And I
Speaker:think that's when things really when you're more
Speaker:aligned in who you are, like, that's when things come in.
Speaker:And so people who are watching this may or may not know anything
Speaker:about human design, but, you know, there's different energy types when you have
Speaker:different profile of range, and it gets very, very detailed. But you
Speaker:can do a lot with your life just knowing your energy type
Speaker:and your profile line. Because your energy type will tell you about your
Speaker:strategy and authority, which is kind of how you're meant to make decisions
Speaker:through life. And how awesome is that? Are we always wondering, like,
Speaker:well, how the fuck am I supposed to know how to do this? Well, like,
Speaker:human design gives you those tools to be like, oh. And so for me, like,
Speaker:I am a manifesting generator, and so my strategy and authority
Speaker:is waiting to respond and following my sacral.
Speaker:And so having those two points, I
Speaker:now can do things. And when things come to me and I
Speaker:respond to them either with, like, an opening uh-huh or
Speaker:like a uh-uh. Like, those are my telltale signs on whether I should do
Speaker:something or not. I don't have to go into my head and think about all
Speaker:the things that are wrong and right with it. I just follow what my body
Speaker:says now. And I think so many of us are conditioned
Speaker:out of our bodies very, very young. We're taught not to trust ourselves, our
Speaker:instincts, our intuitions. We're pulled out of that. We're told to go in the
Speaker:mind and think about everything in the logical, and that's a
Speaker:100% not how we're supposed to do it. We're supposed to get in the
Speaker:body, feel what it's telling you. Like, our bodies know more
Speaker:than our brains. And so I've been listening to that
Speaker:so much more, and I've been having so much more fun in my
Speaker:business. I don't feel so stressed out and worried that, oh, is
Speaker:this gonna work out? Am I gonna get this? Am I gonna get that? Like,
Speaker:I've been experimenting so much more with things.
Speaker:And it's like I feel like it's niched me out
Speaker:a lot, but, like, that's the point. Like, we all are meant to have
Speaker:our own little niches. Like, there's, like, a huge wide world out there. Like, we're
Speaker:not all meant to be the same. We're all so different. And I think,
Speaker:like, me now loving that part about me and
Speaker:not hiding it away or making myself feel shame about it
Speaker:Because the more I embody who I truly am, the more the right people
Speaker:come to me, the more I have to respond to. And, like, I've
Speaker:just been living that. Like, that's my experience. That's not me just talking shit.
Speaker:Like, that's what I've been living is I've been in a more aligned
Speaker:place following my strategy and authority and, like, cool things have come
Speaker:through. And I've felt more aligned in my relationship and my
Speaker:friendships and with the clients I work with, all of
Speaker:that. And so I just, like,
Speaker:get weird and, again, get weirder and, like, don't stop. Like, I
Speaker:feel like that's a big part of the neurodivergent brain is we think so
Speaker:differently, and that's what's so beautiful about us. A neurotypical
Speaker:person looks at something and that's all they see, but we see so much
Speaker:more. What we see and our brains just can
Speaker:articulate and come up with things and we're we're super creative. And I feel
Speaker:like where we're going in the shift of our world,
Speaker:people are gonna be seeking out neurodivergent people for things.
Speaker:Our systems and structures need to change. I don't think there's any doubt in that.
Speaker:And we look at our world and how fucked up it is. Like, people are
Speaker:gonna be seeking out neurodivergence to make those changes and to make things
Speaker:more accessible and more accountable and and just better
Speaker:for everybody. I really feel like the entire
Speaker:quote from this needs to be the get weird and then get weirder.
Speaker:Yeah. That's that's definitely something that every time I I'm making
Speaker:a really big change that you know about Jess that I haven't announced, like, publicly
Speaker:to people yet. Mhmm. And with it comes, like, this terrifying
Speaker:sort of, like, lifting up the curtain or bay whatever we wanna call it.
Speaker:Right? Unveiling. And
Speaker:it's it's gotten to the point, and this is how I knew that I couldn't
Speaker:wait any longer where it was, like, actively more stressful or anxiety
Speaker:inducing to keep that hidden or separated
Speaker:than it was to start incorporating it. And so for a long time, I was
Speaker:like, oh god. Like, what are people gonna think? I literally had a
Speaker:conversation with a newer client the other day that I
Speaker:found out we were going to the same Taylor Swift concert on the same day
Speaker:in Lisbon. Oh my god. By Nave. She's
Speaker:gonna be watching the replay of this because we were talking about, like, the group
Speaker:and everything that was going on, and she was like, oh my god. That's so
Speaker:awesome. And it's just not a traditional, like, thing that you would
Speaker:expect from your accountant, right, to have, like, these other multifaceted
Speaker:interests. And, like, we were talking about astrology, and it was it was such an
Speaker:interesting conversation to have. Like, we would have never had that conversation. She probably would
Speaker:have never ended up in our sphere if I wasn't showing up because she had
Speaker:reached out over a year ago, ended up not coming on on this as a
Speaker:client, reached back out, and then came on in, like, less than 3 days.
Speaker:And there's been a really big difference in, like, how I show up
Speaker:over the last year and getting I'm not as weird as I want to
Speaker:be publicly yet, but a lot of times it's just because I'm tired of thinking.
Speaker:I I don't wanna I don't wanna talk to them that it's like, I'm living
Speaker:my life. It is what it is. You're a projector, and that's totally fine. You
Speaker:don't have to work. You're not here to work, so I validate that for you.
Speaker:Thank you. But, yeah, the weirder that I get and the more the more comfort
Speaker:that's not even that I'm getting weirder. It's that I'm more comfortable with my weirdness
Speaker:being visible and public and not something that I need
Speaker:to feel shame around or less than. And
Speaker:having friends around me and clients around me and colleagues and team members,
Speaker:like, not only validate that, but that see that I have value
Speaker:in my unique experience. And I think that so many of us have value in
Speaker:our unique experience, but we're so, like, fucking in our head about it or,
Speaker:like, what are they gonna think? Or, like, this isn't the way it's been done.
Speaker:Oh, like, let's throw some new ideas out there. Like, let's see what, you know,
Speaker:actually works for us or our clients or whomever. Because, like, the way we do
Speaker:things may not work for someone else, but the clients that work with us love
Speaker:working with us because we have similar values or shared, you know, like, ways that
Speaker:we operate. Yep. Absolutely. I totally agree. I think that's,
Speaker:like, such a a great point too. It's, like, when we get more
Speaker:comfortable within ourselves, the other people who are comfortable
Speaker:within their selves get drawn to us in a way. And so then
Speaker:it's like it's almost like this this, like, uplevel of, like, your
Speaker:frequency and, like, what the work you're doing in the world, and you're meeting like
Speaker:minded people on that level. I feel like I see a lot of things
Speaker:in levels and frequencies. That's, like, how I can, like, read people a lot. It's
Speaker:just like how my brain works, and I just feel like, oh, I've up
Speaker:leveled, so, like, my people up level. Like, it just it's
Speaker:a natural ascension. I feel like if people are true to themselves,
Speaker:like, naturally ascend together, which I've experienced
Speaker:within my friends and family as I've done keep continue to do the
Speaker:work, keep opening up, keep unmasking. I see the
Speaker:benefits of it. Like, not to say it's not easy. Like,
Speaker:it's really fucking hard, and I have challenges, and I still have meltdowns. And,
Speaker:like, things are really hard, but I feel like my
Speaker:baseline is so much easier to get to now. Whereas
Speaker:before, I could never get there. I could never just be like
Speaker:me. And now I feel way more comfortable just
Speaker:even, you know, going out places. Like, my friends have been
Speaker:so lovely and accommodating, just knowing, like, some of the things that may be hard
Speaker:for me when we go out or I may need to leave earlier. I may
Speaker:need to be wearing my earbuds or have some sort of something with
Speaker:but even just me speaking that stuff out now where I never would have before
Speaker:because I felt like, oh my god. I'm gonna be the weird one. I'm gonna
Speaker:be a guardian. I'm gonna I might Yeah. Like it was with me with some
Speaker:fucking fidget toy and, like, my headphones on. Like, but
Speaker:now I I can be, like, much more
Speaker:myself when I have those accommodations in place. And I
Speaker:haven't had anybody say anything to me since I've started
Speaker:opening. And that's, I think, the other thing that would even be helpful for my
Speaker:younger self to know. I was so scared of being, like, can
Speaker:I do these things? Like, are people gonna say something? Literally, no one has
Speaker:said anything. Everyone that I have opened up to about it
Speaker:or needed accommodation with has been nothing but kind,
Speaker:generous, and thoughtful with it. Like, so that for me just
Speaker:helps create that in my brain where I'm like, okay, new pathway.
Speaker:Like, not everybody wants to hurt you. Not everybody, like,
Speaker:thinks you're bad or dumb or wrong. Like so it's, like, creating this whole new
Speaker:pathway now of, like, oh, people can be understanding and can
Speaker:be accommodating and can understand this. And I'm not
Speaker:a total complete, like, alien. I mean, I am, but, like, you know,
Speaker:there's others there's many of us. I'm not the only one. You know? And I
Speaker:think that's also really helpful in, like,
Speaker:how there's way more people talking about neurodivergent and, like,
Speaker:what it looks like and how it's a spectrum. There's no
Speaker:one person that is the same from the next. And I think that's like
Speaker:that in business. No one business is the same from
Speaker:the next one. And so, applying things like that to my
Speaker:business is, like, just makes sense to me. Like, you know?
Speaker:Well and that's something that I'm I'm curious too, some of the changes that you've
Speaker:had even in the last, like, 6 months because I've gotten more
Speaker:comfortable with the boundaries that I've set. There's also a lot of, like,
Speaker:really unique things that we did in business before I ever had, like, team
Speaker:members and things that I've doubled down on. Like, one of the big
Speaker:things for me is calls. I love doing calls.
Speaker:Calls also require a lot of me, both mentally,
Speaker:emotionally, like to show up and to do. So calls are limited.
Speaker:Calls are on certain days. Like, there are really strict parameters that I set
Speaker:for myself every once in a great while.
Speaker:I will push those boundaries, and then I am
Speaker:promptly reminded of why those boundaries were there in the first place.
Speaker:And every now and then, we'll have a prospective client, you know, push back on
Speaker:something or, oh, let's just hop on a quick call. And that's that's not
Speaker:how I operate. And I don't have to give a reason for it, but we
Speaker:have, a couple of softwares
Speaker:that we work with that have quarterly check-in requirements.
Speaker:I've worked for corporate companies. I understand the quarterly check-in requirement. I
Speaker:understand that it's the box that tick. They would call me for
Speaker:these quarterly check ins. I don't answer unscheduled calls
Speaker:for people that I don't know. I very rarely even answer scheduled calls or
Speaker:calls of people I know. And they call, and then they'd send me an email.
Speaker:They're like, hey. We tried to call you. You didn't pick up. I'm like, we're
Speaker:gonna go over this. Number 1, can you just tell me
Speaker:why and I I was like I literally was like, if this is just a
Speaker:quarterly check off, let me know that. I understand. I will make time for
Speaker:this. It can be a 5 minute, yep, everything's good so that you can satisfy
Speaker:your quota. I get it. You're working a job, whatever. However, I
Speaker:will never answer your call if it is not scheduled
Speaker:at a set time ahead. And I finally got
Speaker:to the point where I was chatting with someone, and they were like, oh, hey.
Speaker:It's time to have our call. And I finally was like, hey. I'm autistic. This
Speaker:is how I do things. I'll send you a loom. Mhmm. And if And if
Speaker:we need to have a call, we could schedule something in the future. But I
Speaker:don't like, there is nothing last minute. There is none like, first of all, there's
Speaker:no urgency in the conversation that we're having here. Right. Right. And
Speaker:finally saying that, I I actually got because, basically, you just used to be like,
Speaker:this is how I do business. This is what works best for me. And it
Speaker:was interesting to finally say, like, I'm autistic. This is how I operate. And
Speaker:the response that I got was, like, I actually really love that. Like, thanks so
Speaker:much for setting that boundary. Like, yep. We'll listen. I was like, first of all,
Speaker:it should have been fine regardless whether I said that, but it was also nice
Speaker:to have it received so well. But that's one of the big things that, like,
Speaker:I've done in my business is we I I have to limit calls.
Speaker:It doesn't mean my whole team has to limit calls. And so that's something that,
Speaker:like, we've been navigating, which is really interesting because I have several team members that
Speaker:are like, oh, yeah. I'll just give them a ring. We we
Speaker:haven't done it this way. Like, we we can't I can't do that. Like, I
Speaker:can't operate that way. And so, like, setting, like, how does that evolve as we
Speaker:have new team members come in and, like, what does it look like? And as
Speaker:I phase out of a lot of the day to day, it's less and less
Speaker:of an issue, but it's still part of the dialogue to be having for, like,
Speaker:how we're operating and, like, how we're showing up for clients. So is
Speaker:there are there certain things that you have done in business outside of, like, being
Speaker:weird, showing up authentically, like, really, you know, unmasking and unburying
Speaker:yourself? But are there things that you do in business that you think
Speaker:are different than ways, like, you've been told to do?
Speaker:Yeah. So now when I get new leads,
Speaker:so, like, for my organizing clients, there's always a a
Speaker:call, and then there's an in home consultation. And then, you
Speaker:know, it goes from there. In the past, I would do
Speaker:and, like, the generally, it's to get a a feel for the person. You know?
Speaker:But now it's like a very, like, I listen hardcore
Speaker:to my sacral, and I'm with that person now. Or before, I would be like,
Speaker:oh, I have to do it because they need me. Like, they need me. I
Speaker:gotta do it. You know? Not necessarily working with the most aligned clients.
Speaker:And now it's just like, if I get a bad vibe, it's like,
Speaker:no. It's a no. I have my schedule booked. Like, I can't.
Speaker:And if anything feels off to me, I've listened to it now where before I'd
Speaker:be like, oh, you're fine. Like, just push through. There's always that push through.
Speaker:Just help the client, do things for the client. I
Speaker:don't I don't do that anymore. I I really,
Speaker:feel like I, like, have been more attuned to, like, what
Speaker:my body is telling me, what the right people are. And despite, like, yeah,
Speaker:in business, we wanna make money. Like, of course, I wanna make money, but, like,
Speaker:not at the expense of myself. Not for a situation where I'm
Speaker:not gonna feel like I can be myself or feel supported or any
Speaker:of that. I don't put myself on the line anymore
Speaker:for money. And I know not everyone that
Speaker:that maybe that sounds privileged too. I know not everyone has that ability,
Speaker:but I it's it's just a a no for me. Like, I won't
Speaker:put myself on the line anymore for anyone else. I'm
Speaker:much more vocal about how I work and do
Speaker:things. Like, same thing. Like, I'm I hate being on phone
Speaker:calls. Like, it's terrible. Like, my husband is always laughing at me. And I'm
Speaker:like, I got I'll get off the phone. He's like, what the fuck do you
Speaker:see on that call? Like, I don't know. I'm just not
Speaker:it's hard for me. But, like, I feel like I'm
Speaker:much better about, creating the accommodations for my
Speaker:self now and speaking them out and same thing, like, letting people know,
Speaker:like, hey. I'm autistic. I understand things differently. I process
Speaker:information differently. I do things differently. Like, I need
Speaker:x, y, and z. I've had you know, I've reached out
Speaker:to people on, like, how I can be, like, communicating through email is
Speaker:is very difficult for me. So, like and people I work with, I'll
Speaker:ask them, can you, like, bullet things for me? You know, like, what I need
Speaker:to do. Writing a big, long email, I won't read it. It's too much.
Speaker:Like, there's definitely, like, some dyslexia going on here. So, like,
Speaker:it's it's hard. It takes a lot of brainpower to, like, go through a rebound
Speaker:and be like, what are they asking? I asked for blunt communication.
Speaker:Like, speak to me bluntly. Don't give me a riddle or a roundabout way.
Speaker:Just say what you mean and and, like, I'm not offended.
Speaker:So many people are so offended by blunt conversation.
Speaker:That's, like, been something I've always been, like, me it's something me and my husband
Speaker:talk about frequently. And I'm like, I don't understand why you wouldn't just say this.
Speaker:And he's like, yeah. That's just, like, not how people talk. And I'm like, the
Speaker:why? That's what you mean. So why don't you just say that?
Speaker:So, like, there's still things that are very confusing to me. Like,
Speaker:I'm I'm pretty educated in all of this, and I understand how I work. But
Speaker:I'm still, like a lot of times, I'm like, I don't think it's the neurodivergence
Speaker:that's weird. I think it's the neurotypical people that are weird. Like, why can't you
Speaker:just say Just say what you mean? Yeah. Just say it. Like, why you
Speaker:know? So, yeah, I would say, like,
Speaker:being more honest and upfront about how I work and
Speaker:what I need from people, and also, like, understanding,
Speaker:how other people work. And that's, like, another re like, why I like to
Speaker:bring human design and astrology into into my business because when I'm
Speaker:working with someone, how I do something isn't gonna be the right way for
Speaker:them. They are entirely different entity and work in completely different way. And
Speaker:so I like to use those tools so that I can better support them
Speaker:for how do they work. Because even if they're not divergent, you're gonna
Speaker:be you're gonna operate different than me. Like, you're a projector. I'm an infesting
Speaker:generator. We operate different. We have a lot of similarities, but we're meant to operate
Speaker:completely different. So, like, I feel like that's so important to
Speaker:know, when working with people, like and I
Speaker:feel like a lot in the online community, there's, like, a one way of doing
Speaker:something. This is the way to make this is the way to do this.
Speaker:This is the way to do that, and I call bullshit on that. That's your
Speaker:way. But there are millions of ways to do that, and we
Speaker:are also different. We're also meant to operate
Speaker:differently. And so that's what I really like talk about and
Speaker:empower with my clients is like, hey, this is how I do things,
Speaker:but, like, they might look different for you. Like, you might do
Speaker:it this way or you could try it this way. And that's why, like, trial
Speaker:and error is a huge part of my life. Like, I try everything
Speaker:because I like to know all the ways something can be done, not
Speaker:just one way. I don't believe in a one size fits all. I don't think
Speaker:there's one way, one thing everyone should
Speaker:do or everyone should be or how they there's it's just that's
Speaker:crazy to me. So I like to
Speaker:really, like, help people feel empowered in their ability to
Speaker:create systems and things that work for
Speaker:them. Despite what everyone online is telling you, this is the way to
Speaker:do it. I call bullshit on that every single time.
Speaker:You know? No. I think it's so frequent for someone to because they're trying to
Speaker:sell something. Right? Or they're trying to say, like, my way is the right way.
Speaker:Come by the I'll show you. And I think that something that
Speaker:I've done in the I don't know, 10 almost 10 years that I think I've
Speaker:been in business is pull the things that work for me from it. Like,
Speaker:you don't you don't need to do things exact and what worked
Speaker:for me 9 years ago doesn't necessarily work
Speaker:for me today. And so having like, giving myself permission to change
Speaker:things, update things, like like you're saying, test stuff, try it
Speaker:out. Does it work this way? Like, do we like communicating?
Speaker:Like, does do I feel better? Am I showing up? Like, are my clients enjoying
Speaker:this? Like, how is this working? And I think that that can
Speaker:make such a big difference for really any industry is
Speaker:assessing, like, not only, like because we talk about the finances a lot. Right? Like,
Speaker:not only looking at the finances of it. Like, are you charging appropriately
Speaker:for what you're doing? Like, is it supporting your life?
Speaker:Are you working in a way that best serves you and whoever you're
Speaker:working with? Like, what needs to be tweaked there? What's taking a long time? And,
Speaker:like, it might be a software thing. Cool. But, like,
Speaker:I think assessing the deeper root of that. Like, do you need the software,
Speaker:or does something in the way that you're operating needs needs to change?
Speaker:Like, do you wanna keep doing it this way?
Speaker:Yeah. Absolutely. No. I think that's great. It's just like offering a
Speaker:different perspective or a different tool on something. Like, if something
Speaker:is not working, what else can you try? Like, that's I don't ever
Speaker:see anything as a failure to me. Like, I just always see
Speaker:everything as a learning experience. Oh, I tried this. Okay. This didn't work out. Let's
Speaker:try this. Let's try this. Like, it's not I tried this and failed. That's it.
Speaker:It's like, no. You just keep going. You just keep trying shit until you find
Speaker:the things that work, but that's always gonna evolve too. In everything,
Speaker:in your life, in your business, what works now, like you said, isn't necessarily
Speaker:gonna work 10 years from now or a year from now or a month from
Speaker:now. You don't know. But, like, I just always feel like you have to keep
Speaker:trying. Like, as long as that feels right for you to in your business and,
Speaker:like, feel excited and let up by it, like, yeah, just try
Speaker:something else. Like, who cares if it didn't work out? Like, I'm
Speaker:trialing airing a lot of stuff right now and, like, something's not working out. But,
Speaker:like, it's still fun for me. Like, I still really enjoy it, and it lights
Speaker:me up. So I'm still going with it. So, like, I think as long as
Speaker:those feelings are there, then who keeps a shit? Just
Speaker:keep doing it,you know? Well and I think too, if we're
Speaker:because I've experienced this. If we're no longer feeling
Speaker:excited about something, Are you assessing?
Speaker:Like, are you looking at what you're doing? Like, what needs to change? Do you
Speaker:need to scrap this altogether? Do you need to tweak it? Is you
Speaker:know, like, what needs to change here for you to be excited about it?
Speaker:Because I know that in training with a lot of clients, like,
Speaker:one, they feel like if there's and everyone sells differently. Like, I feel really comfortable
Speaker:in the way that I sell when I do show up to sell. For the
Speaker:most part, we're totally referral based, which is fantastic for someone that
Speaker:doesn't wanna be out here fucking their services every day of
Speaker:the week. But when I want to and I'm excited to do it, I
Speaker:show up in the way that I show up, and it has worked really well.
Speaker:But a lot of clients would be like, oh, I feel like I've talked about
Speaker:that 700 times. You gotta be comfortable. Like, if you want
Speaker:to really push it and sell it, it needs to be something that you're excited
Speaker:about. It needs to be something that you want to be doing because you do
Speaker:generally need to talk about it more times than you think you need to talk
Speaker:about it. And so if you have it where you're excited and you can, you
Speaker:know, not even necessarily hyperfocus on it, but
Speaker:be excited and be wanted to show. Like, it makes it so much easier to
Speaker:be selling and to feel good about what you're selling because you're excited to be
Speaker:doing the thing or knowing that, like, you get to talk about this is fun
Speaker:instead of, like, yep. Come do this thing with me that I know I have
Speaker:to show up here and that I'm gonna be tired about talking about 3 days
Speaker:from now. Yeah. Absolutely. I think, like, the energy you put behind
Speaker:it will show what how it does. Like, if I create a
Speaker:program and I show up, like, once a week being like, hey. I'm doing this
Speaker:thing. You wanna join? No one's gonna wanna fucking join that. Like, I don't wanna
Speaker:join. That sounds awful. So, like, I need to create things that I
Speaker:like, essentially, I create things that I need so that I'm
Speaker:excited about it because, like, that's that's how it works. I I
Speaker:no longer create for the other. And I think that's another thing in my
Speaker:business, but I'm like, oh, this is what they need. This is what people need.
Speaker:And now it's like, what do I need? That's what I'm gonna create, and the
Speaker:other people that need that too will come. And that ensures that the
Speaker:energy behind it is always embodied and always right and always
Speaker:mine. And so I think that's the other thing is, like, we're told,
Speaker:like, your client's nest, your client's and, yes, absolutely. There's a part that we
Speaker:need help our clients, but it's us first. Like, we come first. And I
Speaker:think, especially women in this society, we put ourselves at
Speaker:the bottom of the list all the time, and that is something that I drastically
Speaker:changed over the past few years is, like, I am first. How I
Speaker:feel is first above anything else, And that has been
Speaker:a crucial step in in me feeling the way I do now.
Speaker:I just feel so much better. I don't have so much on my
Speaker:shoulders. I don't feel so much anxiety burning in my body all the time. I
Speaker:don't feel like I have so much on me. I'm like, okay. What
Speaker:do I need right now? Okay. I need to go sit down. I need to
Speaker:go listen to music. I need to go outside. I need to whatever, smoke a
Speaker:joint. Whatever it is, I do that, and
Speaker:then I can focus on everything else. But if I'm not in my
Speaker:body, if I'm not having what's my business isn't gonna do well. And
Speaker:that's what I've really seen is the more I've been taking care of myself,
Speaker:I feel better in wanting to sell in my business now. Where before I was
Speaker:like, I don't wanna sell. Like, that's weird. And now I'm like,
Speaker:no, I love this. This is cool. Like, I'm putting this out there because, like,
Speaker:I'm proud of this and this makes me feel good.
Speaker:No. I think that too it's
Speaker:one of my biggest gripes is that for so many
Speaker:women in particular, they're encouraged to fill their cup
Speaker:so that they can you can't pour from an empty cup. And what
Speaker:bothers me so much about that is the expectation of it's the
Speaker:value that you have to provide others that means
Speaker:you should be taking care of yourself. And that makes me
Speaker:really stabby because you should be able or should be
Speaker:prioritizing filling your own top, taking care of yourself simply because you
Speaker:deserve to exist as a whole human being. And,
Speaker:yes, sure. Does that mean you can quote pour out of your cup
Speaker:or help others? Should that be something that you're doing? Cool. But it also means
Speaker:that, like, other people around you should be doing the same thing. You're not
Speaker:just some, like, oh, I'm gonna go to the spa today so that I can
Speaker:then go do all of the things for my husband and family around the house.
Speaker:Yes. Good stuff to go. Should work. No. Like, you're you're not you're
Speaker:solely for the value you provide to society. That is,
Speaker:such a great point to make, and I feel like that is hard conditioning. A
Speaker:lot of us women feel is that like and I am a
Speaker:100% have felt that most of my life is I I've got to be
Speaker:all these things. So for everyone, I've gotta make everyone happy and do everything
Speaker:for everyone else, and they need me and this and that. Now I'm just like,
Speaker:I'm just taking care of me. And by me taking care of me,
Speaker:other people will see that example and learn to take care of them. Like,
Speaker:by me taking care of me, Renee, my son learns how to take care of
Speaker:himself and to put himself first. Not me taking care of my son and doing
Speaker:everything for him. That he's not gonna learn way. He's gonna learn through watching.
Speaker:And I think that goes for everything, like your friends. Like, when you see your
Speaker:friends really setting boundaries and standing up for themselves, are you like,
Speaker:yes, girl. Like, I want that. I want that. Right? You're never,
Speaker:like, ew. You're, like, that's right. Like, it's empowering. Like, you
Speaker:get, it's, like, almost like chilled in your body when you see people do that
Speaker:because we're conditioned not to. Like, we're told to, like, put
Speaker:everyone above ourselves. So when I see other women out there setting
Speaker:hardcore boundaries because they're putting themselves first, I'm like, yes.
Speaker:That's why I wanna be around her. I wanna be in her group. Like, I
Speaker:wanna know her. Like, because that's what I'm always trying to do is that next
Speaker:level of how my can I take care of myself even more, even better? Because
Speaker:every time I do, just good things happen. I feel
Speaker:better. People around me better. I feel more successful. I feel more
Speaker:happy and satisfied. You know? So that's where I go
Speaker:after now. I'm not going after the people who make promises on how you can
Speaker:make this much money or do this. I'm like, who are the people who are
Speaker:fully embodied? Who are the people that are taking the most care of themselves?
Speaker:Who are the people that are putting up the most boundaries? Those are the people
Speaker:I wanna be around. Those are the rooms I wanna be in. Those are the
Speaker:people I wanna learn from, You know? Mhmm. No. I
Speaker:I was modeled. I think a lot of us were modeled. And I even grew
Speaker:up in, like, a less gender role traditional household. You know, my parents would both
Speaker:work. My parents would both cook. My parents would, you know, both stay at home
Speaker:with us depending like, there there was a lot of flexibility there, but
Speaker:it was still so interesting. I think you and I have chatted about this, but
Speaker:it was so interesting to see my dad continue making adult friendships when
Speaker:they moved in their thirties to a different state. And my mom essentially
Speaker:not making any friends until she's now in her late
Speaker:fifties. And in the last 10 years,
Speaker:she started to develop friendships again or relationship. No one
Speaker:told her that she couldn't, but my dad would,
Speaker:hey. Finish up the job through the day. I'm gonna go grab beers with the
Speaker:guys. Granted, my mom worked a lot of times, like, a longer shift because she
Speaker:was a nurse for a long time, so she may have just been tired. She
Speaker:may have wanted to come home, but she and I have even had the conversation
Speaker:because now in her fifties, she's been prioritizing herself. She wakes up every
Speaker:morning. She does a meditation app. And, you know, like, lays
Speaker:like, does not even get edited so funny. My dad will be like, why do
Speaker:you need to meditate? You just slept 8 hours. Like, that's my meditation.
Speaker:And if you just she stands by it, and she does it. And it's been
Speaker:so nice to see her do that because for years years years, like, I started
Speaker:prioritizing my well-being before I ever saw it modeled for me by any
Speaker:of the women in my family because they've grown up or they've been
Speaker:conditioned to care for everyone around them and prioritize
Speaker:everyone around them. And I did that for a long time in my
Speaker:twenties. David didn't give a shit. David didn't expect any of that
Speaker:of me. And when I finally stepped back and
Speaker:allowed allowed him to contribute and
Speaker:to help and to do things. Guess what? He's a fully
Speaker:capable adult, just like I am. Yeah.
Speaker:Oh, nice. I know. Right? Oh, my god. And, like, don't you feel so much
Speaker:better, like, not having a run around doing everything? And then to, like,
Speaker:show you that other people can support and love on you in that way. Like,
Speaker:it's like, oh, this exists. Like, this is real. Like,
Speaker:I'm totally in St. Paul. Like, I would never modeled how to take care of
Speaker:myself. Like, I had to be that for myself. Like, I never had
Speaker:any examples of what it was like to take care of yourself or what
Speaker:that looked like with women. So it really was like you know,
Speaker:once I had my son, I was like you know, for the first few years
Speaker:of of motherhood, I was just like a psychotic, let
Speaker:me do everything. Let me take care of it. We're just full on in it.
Speaker:And, like, me looking back at myself now, and I'm like, wow. How did I
Speaker:do all of that? Like, I couldn't do an eighth of that now because I
Speaker:have so much structure and boundaries in it now. But it really was,
Speaker:again, a lot of trial and error of, like, I'm gonna not take
Speaker:care of myself at all to I'm gonna take so much care of myself now.
Speaker:Right? And all the in between. But having to be the
Speaker:example for myself because there weren't any. You
Speaker:know? No. And that's, I think, where
Speaker:so much of like, the whole journey of embracing. It's not it's
Speaker:not just the neurodivergence. Right? But it's, like, the neurodivergence plus, like, the journey of
Speaker:being, you know, a woman and, like, a business owner and an entrepreneur.
Speaker:And so many of the members
Speaker:and, like, clients and people that are in our spheres are
Speaker:experiencing such an interesting situ like, such a similar situation. Right? Like
Speaker:and I think being being in a place where it's being talked about
Speaker:more is normalizing having the conversation and normalizing. Relationship
Speaker:on a pedestal.
Speaker:But I didn't know that, like, the marriage that I have now
Speaker:could be a marriage that was possible, could be a marriage that or a partnership
Speaker:that, like, existed because I didn't see it modeled. And
Speaker:so having conversations with friends of, like, what do you
Speaker:mean you can't go away for a week and, like,
Speaker:they can't exit? Like, I'm I'm so confused by that, or, like, they
Speaker:can't go grocery shopping or put a meal together or feed themselves. Like, I I
Speaker:posted on Instagram the other day. Like, I just got home from a 3 week
Speaker:trip where David stayed home. Everyone is alive. The
Speaker:house is clean. The groceries are picked up. He got my favorite current
Speaker:hyperfixation food so that I was set, and then,
Speaker:like, prepped everything in the house before he left for 5 days
Speaker:because he knows that I have a really tough time with the animals on my
Speaker:own after about 4 days. And so, like and then I'm busy. So, like, what
Speaker:could he do to take the load off of me while he was gone without
Speaker:ever being asked? Yeah. And then for me to be,
Speaker:like when he's asking me, do you want the chicken cut? And do you want
Speaker:me to, like, pull this out and get it cut up for you for the
Speaker:week? And my knee jerk reaction being, it's fine. I can do it. And
Speaker:I didn't say it, and I was like, yes. That would be great.
Speaker:And that's such an uncomfortable thing to, like, step into and be like, nope. It's
Speaker:okay. I can allow myself to be taken care of, and there's not gonna be
Speaker:the, well, I did this for you or the I always do the x y
Speaker:z. There's none of that. Like, it's just I have capacity and I'm
Speaker:willing and able to do this. Do you want this thing?
Speaker:And, like, how beautiful is that? I think, like, me and my
Speaker:husband have similar experience of, like, creating a marriage
Speaker:that we've never seen before. And it's been a lot of,
Speaker:like, me putting projections on him because I
Speaker:didn't grow up with a family parent. I grew up with a single mom. So,
Speaker:like, the ways I saw family modeled was through TV.
Speaker:So I grew up thinking that, you know, the moms are home doing
Speaker:everything, the dads went to work, and, like, you know, you see the
Speaker:dads modeled as, like, these incapable people. And I feel like that's such
Speaker:a thing I feel like women participate into where
Speaker:we're like, our husbands are so incapable. They can't do this. They
Speaker:can't. And I've never felt that way about my husband. I'm like,
Speaker:you're even more than capable of doing all the things that I do. I've never
Speaker:been like, oh, we can't do that or in this or you know, and and
Speaker:it seem I've always felt like when people talk about their their husband and
Speaker:so we can't cook dinner. I can't leave the baby with him.
Speaker:That was always, like, a weird one where I'm like, what? What?
Speaker:Like, it's just confusing, but it's like us having to be
Speaker:the examples that we needed. And I think that's so much of,
Speaker:like, a lot of the healing I've done for myself and my inner child
Speaker:is being what I needed when I was a little girl, when I
Speaker:was a young girl, when I was a teenage girl, when I was a young
Speaker:girl in my twenties, like, what does she need? What type of models did she
Speaker:need? What type of empowerment did she and, like, being
Speaker:that and, like, right, trusting in with your partner,
Speaker:having open communication, understanding that you both work
Speaker:differently and how to help each other. And it isn't
Speaker:this, like, I did this, you did that. Like, it's not a tit for a
Speaker:tat. It's just like a beautiful, like, harmony of each other. Like like you
Speaker:said, I have the capacity, so I'm gonna do this. Like, on
Speaker:days when I'm having a hard day, like, I had a full on, like, fucking
Speaker:meltdown this year. It was a terrible day. And, like, my husband just held space
Speaker:for me. He knew that it was hard. He didn't be like, what's wrong with
Speaker:you or whatever. He's like he understood it, didn't things he needed to
Speaker:do to, like, help out and, like, took a load off of me so I
Speaker:could just work through it. And I feel like I was
Speaker:never modeled that. I didn't know that type of man could exist. I
Speaker:didn't know a man holds space for you like that and take care of you
Speaker:and love you and not want something in return, except for my
Speaker:happiness. Like, what? Like, that is create
Speaker:that's not displayed really in the movie. They don't really see that type
Speaker:of partnership displayed. And so I feel
Speaker:like I feel like both of us are probably creating
Speaker:things that we really needed and like, but also like
Speaker:showing other people with possible. Like, when you communicate openly
Speaker:with someone about your needs and wants, and they love you, like, most likely, they're
Speaker:gonna meet you where you're at and try and understand how they can better meet
Speaker:your needs. Like, just with honesty, like and I
Speaker:have found that so much to be true, and a lot of my unmasking is
Speaker:really asking for what I need. I was so afraid to in the
Speaker:past. And now when I ask for what my need my needs are, my, like,
Speaker:my husband meets me with open arms. Like, yes. Absolutely. Like, I understand
Speaker:you. I love you. Let me do those things for you. And I'm over here
Speaker:like, oh my god. Like, still. And we've been together 15 years,
Speaker:and I still am like, oh, this is real. Like, this is still
Speaker:happening. You know? Because it's just not it's not the norm. It's not you
Speaker:see break free a lot. It's not I thought it was platonic
Speaker:friendships too that, like, showing up and
Speaker:just you and I were talking before this, but one of my really good
Speaker:friends, like, it's such a low requirement
Speaker:friendship and that she knows that bit in general, she texts me.
Speaker:She's probably not gonna hear from me. If she schedules a call with
Speaker:me yes. Schedules a call with me. That I
Speaker:I love to talk to her, but that I'm best in person and that, like,
Speaker:we can check-in, and she'll be like, hey, buddy. How are you feeling? Like, do
Speaker:you need to take the day off? You're like, you're you're feeling you seem a
Speaker:little drained, and it's fine. Like, there is no like, I can
Speaker:choose to not go on an excursion or just like, hey. I'm gonna go sit
Speaker:in my room for the night, and it's fine. And, like, she can
Speaker:do whatever she wants to do, and there's no resentment harbored. There's no, like
Speaker:it it's just how we're operating, like, how we need to be our
Speaker:most content, happiest, nourished selves. And, like, why
Speaker:wouldn't a friend want that for you? And if they don't want it for you,
Speaker:then they're probably not a friend. Right. Totally.
Speaker:I totally agree. And I think, like, yeah, like,
Speaker:being open in your friendship. Like, I just did a reel the other day
Speaker:about things that my friends do to help support me, like, as
Speaker:as an autistic and, like, you know, not making me feel bad when I need
Speaker:to, like, cancel last minute. Like, my friends are super understanding about, like, my sensory
Speaker:needs and super understanding of, like, I need to kinda know about the
Speaker:place before we go to the place. I kinda need the details. I need to
Speaker:know, like, and so It's not a ride or die. I'm aware of what you're
Speaker:thinking. Yeah. Right. Right. So it's like,
Speaker:it's felt really it's helped me open up
Speaker:more having people be so open to
Speaker:my needs, and that's something, like, I didn't ever think was
Speaker:possible. I thought I was gonna have to live in suffering my whole life
Speaker:and having to fit in to everyone else's molds.
Speaker:And now I realize, oh, no. I don't. Like, there are people
Speaker:around me that are open and willing to to help me and, like,
Speaker:love me and care for me and care about my comfort. And so
Speaker:that has felt really great because I've thought this whole
Speaker:time that that wasn't gonna be the case. You know, I've created stories in my
Speaker:head just based off past experience. I think it's, like,
Speaker:needing to gain the new experience in this new way for my brain
Speaker:to really take it in and be like, oh, this is a pattern now. This
Speaker:is what you can expect now because I still am expecting
Speaker:things from the past. So it's like, just keep doing it. Keep
Speaker:doing the things that feel a little scary, that feel uncomfortable. Asking for
Speaker:accommodations aren't easy. Like, it's hard when I'm like, hey.
Speaker:I'm autistic. Can you blah blah blah blah blah? You know? Like, that's not
Speaker:always easy. Like but I have found the more I do
Speaker:it, the easier it is, and I do get accommodations in place
Speaker:that make me feel much more at ease and not
Speaker:so rankled up in a tight anxiety ball. And then I need to spend 3
Speaker:days in bed because I've overstimulated myself. You
Speaker:know? Exactly. I that's
Speaker:the more I think for anyone that's, like, a business
Speaker:owner too that's in here because I think everyone that would be in here and
Speaker:listening to this would be a business owner, but that's where,
Speaker:like, connecting with clients or showing up as yourself. Like, literally,
Speaker:I had a call before this with clients that I adore,
Speaker:and they took a hot second to tell me, like, hey. What
Speaker:you posted about your husband, like, I wanted to just give you kudos on that.
Speaker:Like, it was so nice to read and hear. Because I was like, oh, god.
Speaker:This is corny. Like, again, feeling I'm I'm putting, like, this is
Speaker:better than other people's or this is what and, like, all this shit that I
Speaker:tell myself in my head. And when you show up, it's really
Speaker:nice to see. Like, I'm not expecting anyone to kudos, you know, or whatever. And,
Speaker:like, Diva didn't even see any of it because he doesn't ever watch my stories.
Speaker:And so I know he didn't see it. So it wasn't there for him. It
Speaker:was just there to, like, normalize that, like, again, this exists, and it's
Speaker:fine. And like, I sometimes feel like
Speaker:I'm not bringing enough to the table, but there's never, like, we have to
Speaker:like, we each bring very different things to the table. But I think
Speaker:that when you're showing up as who you are, even if it
Speaker:feels corny or cheesy or uncomfortable or cringey,
Speaker:there are I got multiple comments from people or private messages
Speaker:or in person on Zooms, like, hey, that was really powerful. And, like, I'm so
Speaker:glad that you have that and, like, you posted about it. Like, tell me more
Speaker:or, like, you know, I wanna know how you got comfortable, like, allowing someone
Speaker:to do things for you or help you. And I was like, oh, cool. Okay.
Speaker:Like, there's more there's more people out there that, like, value this. It's just it's
Speaker:so nice to have people in my sphere, whatever,
Speaker:that, like, see that and value that and want that. And you
Speaker:don't get that if you don't talk about it. A 100%. I
Speaker:100% agree. And I think, like, that's such a a great example of, like,
Speaker:you were sharing something in your life that, like, you didn't have examples
Speaker:of. Like, you created that. Like, you created that. And, like, it's it's
Speaker:a disservice not to share it because there's someone out there
Speaker:that doesn't know that exists. Like, your younger version didn't know that
Speaker:was that that didn't exist. My younger version didn't know it. So it's
Speaker:like, I see those little moments as a disservice to not
Speaker:share because, like, the things I share about my private life, and I'm very
Speaker:open about a lot of things. It's all for my inner child. It's all for
Speaker:that younger version of myself because I needed an example of who I
Speaker:am today back then. Like, she needed that. And so
Speaker:by me sharing those things, it's like, it totally like, I don't
Speaker:care anymore, like, what anyone else thinks about it. Like, the negativity
Speaker:doesn't exist for me because I'm doing it for me. And I think
Speaker:that's the the part where it just feels so natural now where I'm not like,
Speaker:oh, I should share this because this is what people will like. I'm like, I'm
Speaker:sharing this because I fucking like it. And it means something to me, and it's
Speaker:important to me. And so that's just like sharing
Speaker:from, like, a true self place. And, like, you can't argue with that.
Speaker:You know? Right. I love that so much.
Speaker:Oh, okay. I'm gonna totally put you on the spot. Please do not feel obligated.
Speaker:Hey. There is anything that you could tell
Speaker:neurodivergent business owners or entrepreneurs or people that suspect that
Speaker:they are. Like, what I I feel like I know what it's going to be,
Speaker:but what would you, like, leave them with as a parting thought?
Speaker:It just with anything? Anything. Like, I Any Yeah. I might have
Speaker:value. I I I mean, I feel like we just have to
Speaker:go to back to the beginning where it was just, like, get weird.
Speaker:Like, don't care what other people think. Like,
Speaker:I find, you know, a lot of times,
Speaker:like, I find sometimes getting a break from social media can be
Speaker:really helpful for people because we're just constantly consuming
Speaker:how other people do things all the time. I would say take a
Speaker:break from social media, find out what your weird is, Get
Speaker:super crazy passionate about it. Hyperfocus the
Speaker:fuck out of it and, like, put it out there. And if no one wants
Speaker:it, don't stop. Like, keep going. Keep trying things.
Speaker:Keep doing things that make you feel good, that you needed
Speaker:from your younger self what you need now. I feel like
Speaker:sharing things that empower you, that help you in your
Speaker:life because other people will take that and need that. Other people need your
Speaker:ideas, your visions, your creative. Like, we
Speaker:need it. Like, there's no overabundance of everything. We need
Speaker:everyone's differentiation. We need it. So, like, share it.
Speaker:And the projections are gonna come in. People are gonna think and feel what they
Speaker:think and feel. You can't control what other people think and feel, but you can
Speaker:control what you think and feel and what you put out in the world, and
Speaker:that's what matters. So that's what I'll leave you.
Speaker:Mic drop. No. I had a feeling you were to go for the the get
Speaker:weird. Weird. It just it feels like such a good overarching
Speaker:theme for it. Oh, I love it.
Speaker:Jess, if you have any questions since you're live here,
Speaker:you're welcome to ask any questions you may have with your little baby. This is
Speaker:why I was on silent and not,
Speaker:being a morbid But that's okay. Me coughing and not being on mute like I
Speaker:thought I was was great too. I was like, oh, cool.
Speaker:No. It's all good. We just we've been listening to it like
Speaker:a like a little podcast. How it worked? No. This
Speaker:was really great today. I really appreciate you doing
Speaker:this. I have an employer
Speaker:that is, neurodivergent. And so hearing some
Speaker:of these tactics, hearing some of these experiences
Speaker:is hopefully going to make me like a better coworker, you
Speaker:know, like a better person to work with because, you know,
Speaker:because, just trying to be a team player and make sure that I still work
Speaker:her in the best way that I can. And
Speaker:it's perfect timing because I feel like today, I was experiencing a
Speaker:lot of comparison struggles. I had to go on some of my
Speaker:co other photographers' websites today, and it made me start feeling real bad
Speaker:about what I do and about what I'm where I'm at in my life. And
Speaker:I was like, this sucks. So the advice
Speaker:of, like, get weird, do what you wanna do is how
Speaker:I generally live my life, but sometimes just need a reminder.
Speaker:So I really I really appreciate that. I think that's advice that anybody can take,
Speaker:you know, no matter Absolutely. Where you're at. Yeah. Jess, you are so weird, and
Speaker:I love it so much. Yes. So much.
Speaker:What a compliment. I love it. No. No. It's so, like, already.
Speaker:She was like, it no, Don't fret. You
Speaker:you are. Yes. Get back to your roots here. No. I love
Speaker:it. I love it so much. So thank you. That's so
Speaker:I'm glad that I was able to hop on live and and thank you in
Speaker:person. Appreciate you. I I love that you're in this to
Speaker:better understand your neurodivergent employer because I just feel
Speaker:like how beautiful is that? You trying to, like, understand how a different
Speaker:mind works and trying to, like, see things from their point of view.
Speaker:And I feel like that's you know, my friends do that for me, and it's
Speaker:so deeply appreciated. So I just wanna thank
Speaker:you for even being here to understand a little bit how neurodivergent
Speaker:work. I think that's really kind and lovely of you. Absolutely. I mean, we
Speaker:all we don't get anywhere not understanding the other people.
Speaker:Right? Yeah. You're eating them out of nowhere. You're gonna cut you out
Speaker:to anywhere unless you try to figure out how to talk to people. And as
Speaker:a service based industry, I have to know how to talk to as many people
Speaker:as I can. So as many tactics and
Speaker:skills I can pick up, I try to I try to snag. So hopefully
Speaker:everybody be watching this and, bap, and
Speaker:and, that it's all useful information perfectly. Isn't that right?
Speaker:Isn't that right? So sweet. What a little babe.
Speaker:He's only been eating a little bit at the time. So there he goes. Oh,
Speaker:that's not too bad. No. We're having a good time. He just needs to
Speaker:touch the mouse. Anyway. No. Like,
Speaker:please don't. We do things we're not supposed to.
Speaker:Amazing. Thank you, Jess, so much.
Speaker:Yeah. Oh my god. Thank you. This was great. I had so much fun. I
Speaker:know. And I also I'm gonna message you separately about the
Speaker:office vibes because, like, oh, damn. Dude, I Yeah. That
Speaker:They're iconic. They're fuck I'm sorry. They're amazing. Like, sorry
Speaker:for all the swear words. But, yeah, I
Speaker:finally feel like my office is, like, me. Like, it's fully
Speaker:me now, and I just, like, love being in here. Like, I spend so much
Speaker:more time in here now, so it's awesome. That's amazing. I've gotta get the cat
Speaker:boxes moved somewhere because that's, like, the biggest deterrent to me being in here. Dude,
Speaker:that's a sun pretty nightmare. Yeah. You gotta get them out. Get them
Speaker:out. Oh, I was brainstorming. Yeah. Yeah. It's
Speaker:gross. Amazing. Okay. You guys, thank you.
Speaker:That's a wrap for this episode of the Wealth Witches podcast. I hope our
Speaker:magical money talks have left you feeling empowered and inspired.
Speaker:Remember, wealth isn't just about dollars in the bank. It's about abundance and
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